Kyle and I have been married for 3 years and 9 months. That's longer than Kim Kardashian, Katy Perry, and Britney Spears' marriages COMBINED. In the words of Charlie Sheen ------>
Not that being married longer than those celebrities makes my marriage more AMAZING and, in fact, we should be appalled by the lack of respect that any of them have for marriage thinking that it's ok to just divorce and wed willy nilly. I think a lot of people want the big, glorious, fun party and don't focus on the days after the honeymoon and how you're not only signing a paper committing you legally but you're taking a VOW in front of witnesses and God to be bound together as one. I get pretty upset when people don't look at marriage as a life-long commitment but more like "well if it works, it works and if it doesn't well at least we tried." NO. NO NO NO NO NO! If a marriage is ending did you really try? Did you do everything you could to fix the problem whether it is you or your spouse or did you just decide you weren't "feeling" like it anymore?
I am so thankful for my best friend. I always tell people that I married my best friend and I know everyone will say that about their spouse but that's good! That's so important in a marriage! You have to marry your best friend because you're going to spend everyday with them! I look at everyday that I spend with Kyle as a gift. We have disagreements and hard times but I never look back and think of those disagreements. I look back and think of this weekend spent with family watching him hold our nephew telling me "he has that baby smell I love". Makes me think of what a great dad he will be one day. I think of when we have a Nerf gun war at the childish ages of 23 and 25. I think of this past Wednesday when we spent hours cleaning out our bedroom and the bins filled with old army stuff, childhood toys, books, and other knick-knacks. Usually something like that could be boring or uneventful but because we were doing it together, it was fun, and I was thankful for the time spent together. I think of when we both weren't feeling well last night so I made us both a cup of tea and we watched The Walking Dead. It's amazing how something so simple as having a cup of tea and watching television could make me so happy. Just sitting there, together, I couldn't help but smile because there's nothing that could make that moment any better.
I've made mistakes. I have regrets. But if my marriage was on troubled waters at any point in time I would take every ounce of energy to fix the problem. I would never throw it away.
I am so thankful for my best friend. I always tell people that I married my best friend and I know everyone will say that about their spouse but that's good! That's so important in a marriage! You have to marry your best friend because you're going to spend everyday with them! I look at everyday that I spend with Kyle as a gift. We have disagreements and hard times but I never look back and think of those disagreements. I look back and think of this weekend spent with family watching him hold our nephew telling me "he has that baby smell I love". Makes me think of what a great dad he will be one day. I think of when we have a Nerf gun war at the childish ages of 23 and 25. I think of this past Wednesday when we spent hours cleaning out our bedroom and the bins filled with old army stuff, childhood toys, books, and other knick-knacks. Usually something like that could be boring or uneventful but because we were doing it together, it was fun, and I was thankful for the time spent together. I think of when we both weren't feeling well last night so I made us both a cup of tea and we watched The Walking Dead. It's amazing how something so simple as having a cup of tea and watching television could make me so happy. Just sitting there, together, I couldn't help but smile because there's nothing that could make that moment any better.
When you focus on the simple things of life (which I have mentioned several times in past blogs) you will be happy. I promise. The best days spent with my husband are the ones that are with family, friends, or just us. We could be doing nothing or busy running errands. We could be cleaning out the apartment, or just drinking tea watching television. Whatever it is we do, I'll be happy because we're doing it together.
3 years and 9 months down, a lifetime of fun and happiness to come.
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